Week 12
So the final week of class covered a very sensitive topic
for me and my family - Divorce.
Divorce can be an extremely painful process, and quite
complicated ranging from reasons for divorce and results of divorce (influences
on individuals emotionally, physically, financially etc).
Something that has been frustrating me lately though has
been the lack of information on children of divorce. In particular those in
late adolescence and early adulthood and the effects it has on them.
I want to know my chances of divorce if my parents were?
Will I continue the negative/ineffective coping strategies my parents used? How
will I find security in my future relationships? How can I avoid what seems to
me at times to be unavoidable? How can I better support my family in times of
difficulty like this?
All these questions come to my mind when I think of divorce
and its effects, or rather the effects I wonder about.
I think its very important to focus not just and what is
wrong in a relationship, but what helps other relationships be successful?
I would like to quote 4 points from President Kimball
(previous leader of the Latter-day Saint church) Pres. Kimbal stated 4 points of Marital
success:
1) The Careful selection of a Partner (dont just jump into
it, but study it out)
2) Great Unselfishness (selfishness is the leading cause of
misery in our world)
3) Continued Courtship & Expressions of Affection (Its
more than to just know you love them, tell & show them you love them)
4) Commandments - (do what you know to be right)
I think that these 4 points provide a good structure for maintaining
a strong marriage. Of course there are several other factors, but we should all search out reliable sources, study them out and do our best.
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